- @SweetieBerry just tweeted this: Often the more important question isn’t “is it perfect?” but “does it function?” Begin where you are. Grow if you need to!
- Big D (age 5) really struggles with perfection, and I’m trying to help her gain some perspective, so she can keep working and not get hung up, both physically and emotionally, on her work not being perfect enough.
- One of my personal mottoes for the last 20 years or so has been “progress in a day, not perfection in an hour.”
Add these three things together, and you get one mama really rethinking things. Sure, perfection is arguably desirable, but is it generally necessary, and, more importantly, is it worth putting in the extra effort to create?
I want my brain surgeon to do a perfect job. Likewise I want to get 100% of the puke cleaned up when my kid hurls at 3 AM, but, generally, perfection just isn’t all that important. Like some Army folks I know have said, an 80% solution will usually get the job done most efficiently.
If I have a typo in this post I might be embarrassed, and you might think less of me, but will it make my post less easy to read or understand? Not likely, unless I really butcher a hugely important word and it is the only time it appears in the post. The value of estimation skills in mathematics is leading to increased emphasis on mental math skills. Hospital corners aren’t even used in hospitals, now that we have fitted sheets. No house with kids living in it is ever going to look perfect, at least not for more than five minutes, as long as the kids are in it and not in straitjackets.
FUNCTIONALITY is the important thing, just as @SweetieBerry said.
If my penmanship is legible, my message gets across. If I keep a $100 buffer in my checking account, I probably don’t need to worry about change when I balance my checkbook. If a house is tidy enough for the residents to live happily and healthfully within it, what is the point in spending more time on it, when that time could be spent enjoying said family?
Good enough *really is* good enough!
So how do I help my daughter with this? I could ask her what she is trying to achieve with her work; sort of a mental rubric (or even a written one!), and then she can assess for herself when her mission is accomplished. I have the impression though, that she has a mental image of what her work is “supposed” to look like, regardless of the intended audience or purpose, and that she gets frustrated when her work falls short of that imagined mark. How to let her know that her work will improve the more she works at it, *over time*, and that it doesn’t need to be perfect today, if ever? How do I talk to her about this without undermining her work ethic and personal drive for achievement?
As always, I welcome your ideas…